DOA, dead on arrival, a term used by hospitals and law enforcement agencies to describe the condition of a patient, victim or perpetrator when they arrive by ambulance for emergency treatment. I got that, I can understand that. But, can a person be born DOA?
Can a person come to this earth worthless, evil personified? Evil and demonic from birth? If you have a MALIGNANT NARCISSIST in your life, you have a serious life threatening problem. You are suffering some debilitating pain.
Please permit me to share with you some information concerning narcissists that you must be made aware of for your own safety and sanity:
#1 - They will NEVER change!
#2 - Narcissists have perfected the use of "forgive and forget" to enforce their will on their victims. "You must return for more abuse in order to prove you forgive. You are accused of being mean, unforgiving and un-Christlike." * (Taken from Tactics of Narcissistic Personality Disordered Mothers, gailmeyers.hubpages.com Please read to gain a better understanding.)
I was blown away when I read this article. It is a "Playbook" for my malignant narcissistic mother, chapter and verse. How could anyone know the exact life I have lived, the exact tactics this woman used against her entire family for 87 years? The NM (deliberately) confuses the fundamental difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. One can forgive but it takes two to reconcile. How can we ever reconcile when she will never admit the truth? MNM never forgive the slightest infraction, real, imagined or completely fabricated.
I was 58 years old and stunned by my mother's obvious anger and hatred when she rebuked me for being born June 4, 1951. "I was on my way to the beach! I was invited to a party! I couldn't go because I had gon ' into labor wid YOU!" She was genuinely angry, outraged. I was shocked, puzzled, mystified (again).
"MNM never forgive the slightest infraction." My mother never has. To this day she can remember every hateful remark, slight or offense. She tried to kill my uncle with a shotgun once for criticizing the way she dressed me. I was a 2 year old wearing a pair of raggedy dirty "draws", no shoes and I am sure my nose was snotty. He called her a whore and she hated him until the day he died in 2005. Refused to cry and attempted to be the center of attention at his funeral.
"It can take decades for the children of a malignant narcissist to even recognize what the real issue is, many never do." It took me 58 years!
#3 - The MNM have clever strategies:
1- Gaslighting
2- forgive and forget
3-triangulation
4- Scapegoats (SG) the child she manipulates the siblings into hating. (that's me)
5- Golden Child (GC) the child that she adores. She doesn't love this child, but pretends to because this child improved her image. My brother managed to become a medical doctor and immediately she began referring to him as her "Black Prince". From that point on he was worshiped by her, praised constantly. "You n***** ain't s***! *Sam became a Doctor!" She did everything she could to make us all feel inferior until he escaped her clutches for 25 years.
6- Flying Monkeys (taken from the Wizard of Oz) "Willfully ignorant or easily deceived friends and family that abuse by proxy." These are the people she manipulates to do her bidding. They are her gullible little imps , they do her bidding on demand and never question her. Their fear of her is so great they will do anything she demands. My MNM ordered two of my brothers to humiliate my brother (GC) by destroying his medical practice. The fool took a U-haul to my brother's office and emptied out every stick of furniture, file cabinets, refrigerator, etc. She busted in his office screaming and hollering; "I bought all dis muthaf**** shit! GET DUH F*** UP AND GET DUH F***OUT! Humiliated and disgraced my brother left town and remained estranged from us for 25 years. The MNM will use FM to do her dirty work. The MNM will lie and project her bad behavior on the victim, the Scapegoat (SG). I am the SG in my family. According to my MNM I am the cause of all the grief she's ever had to bear. My brothers and family refuse to have anything to do with me because MNM demands their loyalty.
I just have too much to share from her "Playbook" today. It is exhausting. I am going to have to break this down into smaller segments. The most frightening characteristic I learned in my research is that they rarely heal and their predatory nature continues on the deathbed. " If anything it worsens." They are evil personified!
Dear LORD I thank you for this knowledge. Bring wholeness and healing to my family, remove the scales form their eyes. Permit them to finally see, in the Mighty name of Jesus I pray.
Stay in His WORD children. Remember; "Apart from Christ we are nothing."
May GOD's Grace, Mercy and Truth engulf you, cloak you and keep you in Perfect Peace,
Rachel Gwendolyn (the exceedingly proud granddaughter of a great Patriarch, JEROME WALTERS)
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It is very difficult for the average person to believe anyone could be this evil and manipulative, especially a mother or family member. And without knowledge such as presented here, even if they get a glimpse, they have no foundation from which to even express or protect themselves. I suppose many after reading this post will begin to search their own lives for such persons among family and friends for I know there are many. What's really tough is one would have to abandon such a loved one or friend for life for their own survival and protection. That would be really sad if it were mother, father, sister, brother or child.
ReplyDeleteIt is indeed a great tragedy but GOD has given me Joy! I can proudly and honestly say today that I no longer hate her. GOD explained to me that she wants to be hated. In her messed up mind any hatred or criticism from me justifies her deep secret hatred and foul deeds. I do actually still love my "mother". I still love that facade, that "loving" mother that I thought I had. The greatest tragedy is the fact Martha could have been the mother she always pretended to be. She could have really given her life to Christ rather than putting on an act for the public. In the final analysis I now know she knows better, always did. The poor foolish woman thinks she is smarter than GOD, believes that her sooth saying and witchcraft have real power. When I tell you I pity her, feel nothing but deep sorrow for her and pray for her soul daily, I do. She permitted satan to reduce her to the most despicable woman on earth. satan wants that for all of us. The one common tread I have discovered about these monster mothers is insane jealousy. The insane jealousy is the result of low self-esteem. When you commit low acts you will feel low, worthless, unworthy.Which in turn breeds envy and jealousy. It is a vicious cycle that only GOD can rescue us from. Martha doesn't want to be rescued.She doesn't want to be saved. Her pride will not let her. satan got a hold of her and she won't let go. I can't help her but my testimony can help others. Thank you brother! Continue to pray for us!
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